True Confessions: I've moved to Switzerland. (Ok, only figuratively, but still...)
I am one of the first (if not the only one) of my friends to have a baby. To be fair, my friends are amazing and very understanding of my less than frequent participation in our friendships, but it seems like becoming a mom is sort of the equivalent to moving to say... Switzerland (chosen for this analogy for both its neutrality and top notch chocolate). When I spend time with my friends I love it and I have a great time, but there is always a bit of culture shock.
I am one of the first (if not the only one) of my friends to have a baby. To be fair, my friends are amazing and very understanding of my less than frequent participation in our friendships, but it seems like becoming a mom is sort of the equivalent to moving to say... Switzerland (chosen for this analogy for both its neutrality and top notch chocolate). When I spend time with my friends I love it and I have a great time, but there is always a bit of culture shock.
{Here we are in the Swiss Alps!}
Sometimes it is like I speak another language. It takes me awhile to switch my dialect from diapers to diaphragms (Just kidding! I don't know anyone who uses, let alone talks about, a diaphragm. I just liked the alliteration.) Then there is the time difference to deal with, and nobody likes a friend with jet lag. My weekend hours are roughly 7am to 9pm and theirs are more 10am to 2am. Plus, I am no longer accustomed to the local cuisine of champagne and martinis. One glass of wine at 9pm and I'm out like a light.
As understanding as my friends are, it is hard when they can't totally relate to something that is such a big part of my life. You can read all you want about Switzerland, but you will never understand what it is like to live there until you live there.
I know things won't always be this way. I have a few friends who are already eying a chalet in the Alps (so to speak). I always tell them that as wonderful as it is in Switzerland, and as much as I love it (I do Lily, I LOVE it), you better be ready for the move because things are DIFFERENT over here and there is no going back. (Ok, this is where my country analogy falls flat. Maybe you committed a crime in the States and that is why you can't go back? Just go with me on this one.)
Am I the only one who has trouble meshing my past and present? I haven't lost who I am or what I love, but sometimes my priorities are just a bit different these days and it makes it a little harder to relate to everyone when our lives are so dissimilar.
Anyway, I love my friends. They are beautiful inside and out, intelligent, amazing, and such wonderful aunties and uncles to my girl. Maybe I just need to pull out my passport more often.
I can't wait to see the comments on this one. I've been married for over 3 years and most of my friends are just now getting engaged or are nowhere near thinking about marriage. Now we're thinking about babies. I know my friends will be accepting and loving, but its just inevitable things will change. I just wish we were all at the same stage in our lives.
ReplyDeleteThis is a fantastic analogy. I know we are about to embark on something very similar too. I think we are more ready for it than some of our non-swiss friends though. :)
ReplyDeleteBahaha! I loved this. Not just because I've been to Switzerland and have jet lag ;) It is different. Being somewhere in between a few of my friends phone calls end with "do you want to say hi to Nikki?" Me: "hi baby...blah blah blah" baby:............ but I like little visits here and there. I'm not ready to move though.
ReplyDeleteOh girl, I can surely relate to this! Lol... my favorite part was diapers to diaphrams. I am loving your weekly confessions.
ReplyDeleteBa ha ha ha, Toivola makes a lovely blond girl.
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